Most of us have been in a relationship where we both know that there's a problem. It's that in between time; not quite together and not quite broken up. However, neither party wants to be the first to admit they want out.
"In between" time can be a time of strange thoughts. Though the two of you present a pretty normal couple face when you're out in public, the thoughts in your head are definitely not for public consumption. Let's take a look.
Throughout this stage, you start becoming more and more detached from your current relationship and before you know it, you're practically thinking and acting like a single entity again.
Here are three things to look for. If you recognize yourself in these, it's time for a possibly uncomfortable talk with your partner. Do otherwise and you run the risk of actually acting like you're a free agent before you become one.
1. You find yourself checking out other people
And you aren't just scoping for fun, either. If you're actually looking at people other than the one you're technically with and thinking about approaching them, fantasizing (even just briefly) about what it would be like to be with them instead, or even weighing your options with other people against what you already have; these are all pretty solid signs that you're mentally checking out of your current relationship.
Let's face it; if you spend more time contemplating "what if" with other potential mates it's not a stretch to deduce that you aren't satisfied with what you have.
2. You'd rather be alone
Remember when you used to have a really hard day at work and your focus was getting home and cuddling with your partner? Now however, that's just another "thing" on your to do list. It's become something else you have to deal with. You'd rather just be alone.
I'm a big proponent of each partner having enough "me" time. Even the happiest of relationships benefit from it. If your lover's arms no longer offer you any comfort, then you have to ask yourself what you're doing there.
3. Your plans are only for you
There was a time, not too long ago, that thoughts of breaking up were the farthest thing from your mind. All your plans, whether they be immediate or more long term, included the two of you; smiling and happy.
But now your relationship has hit a pothole. You realize that as a couple you actually are breakable and your future is looking less and less certain. If you've reached the point of no return, then any plans you're making now are probably just for you, and don't include your partner. If that's the case, your mind has been made up for you.
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