Did either you or your ex boyfriend do something which caused either one of you, or both of you, to run away from the relationship. You were probably surpised because it seem like you had a fairy tale relationshp but somehow it was turned into a nightmare. Well don't worrry about it at all! Believe it or not, it is still possible to get your ex boyfriend back if you decide to follow the steps I'm going to provide you.
To begin this process you will need to ask yourself four important questions. It is essential you honestly answer these questions because the answers given will help you in determining how you can get your boyfriend back!
1. Was the issue which brought the relationship to an end fundamentally important or was it blown out of proportion?
2. Does it seem silly that the two of you could still get into a heated argument about it today?
3. If you would win the argument, would it change anything or would it be better stop arguing about it and move on to other things?
4. Was the argument worth fighting about at all?
If you answered no to any of the previous questions, then you need to immediately put the whole issue out of your mind and move on. Why move on? You can move on because the argument was really not that important to you. Believe it or not, but many relationship ending disagreements are completely unnecessary and the couple involved could lessen the tensions by just moving on.
Next in your steps of getting your ex boyfriend back is to stop thinking about how you might be prerceived. In fact it matters not one bit what other people think about you. Regardless of your height, weight or lack of intelligence or that you are a brainiac. You need to drop any this whole line of thinking so that you can just be yourself. You've got to be just who you are and not worry about living up, or down, to what other people may think about you. Then everyone, including your ex boyfriend, whill perceive you the way you really are, instead of who you are pretending to be.
Another important step in gettin your ex back is in learning how to distance yourself, both mentally and emotionally, from him. Yes this is counterintuitive, but doing this will lessen any stress which might have been building up inside of you as a result of the breakup. This will also help reduce tensions between the two of you. This will be relationship repair can finally emerge in any discussion with your ex boyfriend. Up until that point, any separation is important such that when you re-establish contact it will be positive, not negative, contact.
Once you both are sufficiently clear headed enough, a rational conversation can occur ro discuss what went wrong. Resolutions are only found when there is open and not accusatory conversation and communication. This has to be your primary goal. Getting to the point where the two of you can sit down and talk like caring adults. Many breakup can be repair when the couple reaches this stage. But this stage is only the beginning stage in getting your ex boyfriend back.
These steps are the same steps I had to take to get my ex boyfriend back. Mind you, I didn't come up with these steps but you can use these steps, and others, to help get your ex back.
Author Resource:
Susan Drayford is a writer who has experienced love in all its glory and pain. Here she shares her experiences on how to get your loved one back. For more on this subject go to http://getexbackhelp.org
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