Once in a while moving on (break up, loss or other major change) is difficult. It's rarely easy except you're so contented to get out of a situation that you can't delay to make changes and move on. A break up disrupts your complete life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many shared friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult.
One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when you're ready to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, you're going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must point out to them that you're moving on, break up is over, and that you don't appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship.
Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing up the guy in the hopes that you'll get back together. You can just explain, "Moving on, break up is over, that's that." After all they'll come around because they're your family and they love you. It's probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends.
If you didn't have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a concern. But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. And then there's the concern of your ex wishing to hang out with the friends, too. You might even run into each other as you each effort to hang out with your mutual friends. This doesn't mean that it's necessary when you're moving on break up with your friends. It's just simply going to be more hard to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over.
As difficult as it seems, when you say, "Moving on, break up is history," you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those you're closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, it's probably easiest on everyone because they don't have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid.
Sometimes the "moving on break up" period is just too hard when you're surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a vacation with a friend who isn't involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasn't friends with your ex. This can help you get some perspective. Once you've declared, "moving on; break up over" then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal.
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Susan Drayford is a writer who has had love in all its glory and despair. Here she shares her experiences on how to get your loved one back. For more on this subject go to http://getexbackhelp.org
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