When we are having feelings of Self Doubt it's all to common to look at the people around us who appear to be on easy street and feel even worse about ourselves. We look at the teammate who doesn't need to shift down while climbing a huge hill. Maybe it's the co-worker who just landed the promotion we were hoping for. Or the mom who somehow manages to hold down a full time job, bake 2 dozen cupcakes at a moment's notice and still not look frazzled! Often though what we fail to remember is that teammate, has been cycling for years and has paid his dues. We didn't see the co-worker putting in the hours on evenings and weekends doing the work to get that promotion. Or the stress that goes into always being the "perfect parent" The truth is, very little comes easy to anyone, and even the masters have struggled with feelings of self doubt. So how can we overcome these feelings of not being good enough and become one of the masters of self confidence?
Step 1 ~Make a list of your fears. To create a new reality, we must face our current reality. Play the "what if game" with them. Take away their powers.
Step 2 ~Realize that the inner critic in your head is your fear. Stop listening. Remember what Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. That includes your inner critic!
Step 3 ~Find a support network. Someone, anyone who will encourage you!
Step 4 ~Get Inspired! Read books, watch movies, attend lectures. Do whatever it takes to get that passion burning inside you. Passion is the great energizer.
Step 5 ~Stop focusing on past failures. Visualize yourself successfully completing whatever it is that you are working towards.
Step 6 ~Create an action plan to get you where you want to be. If you don't know how check out my notes on this page for a how to guide.
Step 7 ~Each and every day take one small step in the direction you want to move in. That direction is forward, with your head held high!
Step 8 ~Remember Self Doubt is grounded in fear. Fear of your own greatness, fear of being successful. "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be?