One sign that you're still in love with ex lover is your longing for his/her presence despite your anguish. Though your life is in a miserable state because he/she dated someone else, fell out of love or prioritized his/her career, letting go of mementos seems impossible. The feeling is still so alive that if a genie showed up, you would request only one thing: you want your beloved back in your arms again. But since genies exist only in fairy tales, read these tips to know how to pull him/her back to you.
Inhale and exhale.
When you're in the state of filling the void your ex left when he/she walked out of your door, you can't spell sanity correctly. With spontaneity as your backup, you act as if carefulness is an enemy and the result hurts you more because you end up doing things you shouldn't be. At this stage, it's important for you to stay put and be as objective as a scientist. Breathe and know what's given in your situation before you act.
Value yourself.
To put it bluntly, don't exaggerate your desperation. You're only selling yourself so cheaply he/she would reckon no one would buy you in the market. Stop running after your ex because he/she will just turn to the other direction. If you continue stalking, you'll get into more troubles. Spare yourself some pride by not offering everything to him/her. Be positive. Let the positive emotions rule you.
Welcome changes.
Divert your attention to a new activity that you haven't done together with your ex. If you weren't fond of going the beach, make swimming your regular exercise. If you used to be the indoor type, go trekking with a mountaineering group. It's your diversion that will trigger his/her curious soul. When he/she sees you with a different aura, your ex will wonder what changes have happened since you split up.
Keep updated.
If you're still in love with ex partner, don't cut the communication. Muster your courage to type him/her an email but as a buddy. Give important details about what's happening in your life. Continue to meet your common friends. They will update you with the things he/she can't tell you squarely. Then you'll be able to picture out how you'll win him/her back.
Feel.
If your ex still loves you, your instincts will tell you. The typical signs would include responding to your messages, purposely attending gatherings to see you and asking you and your friends out to enjoy your company. It's necessary for you to be sensitive with his/her moves. Your years of being together will give you hints if it's worth another try. Try to be unbiased with your observation. Otherwise, you end up fooling yourself.
Have a talk.
At the right time, initiate a serious conversation. Talk about your main issue, how you caused each other pain and which path you are taking. If your ex is in the mood, reminisce your wonderful and unforgettable memories. Your recollection will support a few lines from the song, "The Call" by Regina Spektor. The last part of "The Call" says, "Let your memories grow stronger and stronger 'til they're before your eyes. You'll come back when they call you. No need to say goodbye."
If you're in the middle of a still-in-love-with-ex issue, you try everything to put your relationship back on the road. However, remember that doing things speedily will put everything into waste. It would be better if you don't forget the purpose of the seatbelt, the traffic lights and the brakes.
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