When you're trying to get over being dumped, everything seems to be teasing your will. You turn on the radio and all the songs you hear make you rekindle both your good and bad times together. You read a novel and you find yourself in a melancholic character. If you buy something at the supermarket, you recall the biscuit you ex loves to eat. For you to overcome these obstructions, we listed five have-you-ever questions that will guide you in putting a period to your pain.
Have you ever seen a poster of smileys with different facial expressions?
It actually tells us we all live in a galaxy of emotions and we should be thankful for every opportunity that leads us to a feeling we haven't felt before. Each moment elicits an emotion that no other moments can do. When he stared at you, you got thrilled. When she brought you to her house, didn't you feel uneasy with the presence of her parents? When a handsome neighbor walked her home, you got jealous. And now that you're infuriated or tormented because your ex dumped you, let the emotion flow freely through your veins. Accept human nature and be absorbed in pain. You can't tell when you'll encounter such feeling again.
Have you ever shared the same story plenty of times you got bored with it?
The only thing your friends can do in this situation is to listen. However, that is considered highly significant as it allows you to hop from one house to another to squeeze your heartaches out. With their empathic ears, you can talk and talk until you yourself are too exhausted to share your sad story. In one of Paulo Coelho's booksellers, the author encouraged everyone to share their stories so that they will be replaced with more beautiful ones. That implies you'll eventually wake up one day with a desire to share a different experience.
Have you ever hated someone so much it hurt you?
To get over being dumped faster, some people opine hatred is the best alternative and it's true. However, keep in mind that hate is a negative feeling and therefore, has negative effects on you too. If you receive a friendly message from him, how would it affect your disposition that day? If you discover she's dating someone else, would it not put you in a defensive mode? Hate is not the answer. It's to accept the fact that you've already parted ways. It's to learn how to forgive and forget the person.
Have you ever wondered how victims of world wars 1 and 2 moved on?
It's because time, with its own mysteries, promises a new beginning. That includes a new start for your scarred heart. Some people are excellent in overcoming trials. For some, it takes longer time to be able to face love again. But the common denominator is the Persian proverb, "This too shall pass." If you're not convinced, find inspiration in the cycle of nature. You see, spring comes after winter, a butterfly comes from a cocoon and sunrise comes after sunset. The list is too long to read. Just don't deny it.
Have you ever thought about the purpose of decisions?
They categorize who can serve as knights and who can hide as cowards. If you decide to be weak, make your life miserable with your agony. If you decide to be strong, then believe in love again. But come to think of it, if you ask a child to choose between a bitter gourd and a potato, he or she would readily pick out the latter. Well, you are actually in the same situation. In your case, you're torn between a cage and a pair of wings. Tell me, wouldn't it be exciting to fly than to get stuck?
To get over being dumped is a challenge. When you're taken for granted, you feel you don't deserve any kind of affection. But in due time, you will realize you have wrong assumptions. When you've totally let him go, there's no need to hide the smile of a wiser and stronger person. If you get a chance, thank your ex lover for the worthwhile experience.
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To go on with your life, you have to forget the painful experience; see further advices on getting over a breakup . If you already recuperate from the shock, but determine that he/she is the one for you, check out what you should do in make your ex love you .
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