Congratulations you re finally tying the knot! Welcome to one of the most important events of your adult life. After all the initial excitement of wedding planning has subsided, it is now time to get down to business the actual wedding preparation. As the soon to be groom, you are expected to make lots of decisions with your bride from choosing the church and the venue, to choosing the menu, and band everything is up to you and your fiancee. It is a bit overwhelming, but it is definitely as fulfilling and fun as the actual wedding itself.
Choosing the best man is probably one of the toughest decisions you have to make especially if you are the kind of person who wants to please everybody. It is especially tough if you have plenty of male friends and relatives. There are no straight rules in choosing the best man but if you are having a hard time with it, here are some tips that might help you in making your decision:
First of all, keep in mind there is no hard and fast rule in choosing your best man.
Bear in mind that this is your wedding and when it comes to choosing the best man, you alone are in charge, not your parents or your fiancee. Your bride will choose her bridesmaids and you will choose your groomsmen and best man. A lot of other people might want to be as involved as possible in the preparation of your big event, and while they may be well intentioned, picking your best man is your decision and ultimate he is there for you.
Know the responsibilities of a best man.
Your best man will assist you in wedding preparations, in planning the bachelor party, in gathering the gifts, and other small errands. He will also propose a toast and deliver a speech at your wedding reception. Keep this in mind when choosing the perfect candidate. Remember to choose someone who is responsible over someone who is a party animal. The happy go lucky friend might not fulfill his duties on time or at all. Your perfect candidate must be reliable, efficient, and of course fun. Make sure he is the kind of guy who keeps his promises and sticks to his responsibilities. Another important thing is proximity and availability. The perfect guy should be easily accessible so he can have enough time to manage everything he is assigned to do.
Should you choose a friend or family member?
When you have a few people in mind, but you still can t decide, the first thing to consider is family. Friends don t usually mind if you pick a family member but a close family member might be surprised if you choose a friend. Who is your closest, most responsible, most fun male family member whom you think is expecting to be asked? If you cannot think of one, then it s time to consider your friends.
Inform the guys after you make your decision.
Once you have made your decision, it is time to inform the boys. I advise you to do this sooner than later to give your best man more time to plan and to ease the tension of those who are expecting to be chosen. Remember, you can offer the rest who are not chosen to be your best man, to be groomsmen instead. Remember, you can have as many groomsmen as you want and they do not have the same responsibilities as the best man.
I am sure your friends and relatives are all excited for your big day and they are all there to support you. After all, it s your wedding day, and everyone it there to celebrate with you!
Author Resource:
Mike is an author for wedding-related event preparation. For more information on ideas for best man gifts you can give at your wedding, you can visit http://www.vipgroomsmengifts.com . You can also browse their selection of groomsmen gifts to get ideas for your wedding party.