You’ve made your move. You approached her at the café. She laughed at your jokes. You have her phone number. She touched your arm as she said goodbye and looked at you meaningfully. What next?
Before you get too excited about your future together or the moment you can finally get her in bed, I suggest you really think about what you are looking for with this woman.
Is it a roll in the hay? Is it someone to hang out with and open to the possibility of more?
No matter what you are looking for, be sure to keep your expectations high. Even if you haven’t had a date in 10 years, that doesn’t mean you should settle for less than what you deserve.
What do I mean? What I mean is that this woman may be the most beautiful woman you have ever met and you may want her to have your children, but what you do now will lay the groundwork for the future or your relationship.
You should have certain expectations for this woman and it is up to you to decide what they are.
For instance, I met a ridiculously hot woman one night and went home with her number programmed into my phone. Two days later I gave her a call. There was no answer so I left a brief message, “Hey, this is Bill. Give me a call.”
I didn’t hear anything for three days. Right then I should have deleted her number from my phone, but I was still young and naïve and learning how to look out for myself.
When she did call, I mistakenly went ahead and made plans to get together with her the next night. Because she didn’t know exactly what time she would be finished with work, she said she would call me at 5 p.m. to let me know what time we would be able to meet.
I kept my phone nearby as I worked out at the gym that afternoon. Close to 5 p.m. I began wrapping my workout up in case she was getting off work soon and wanted to meet on the way home for a drink. Well, 5 p.m. came and went.
Thinking she might have been caught up in some work issue, I didn’t stress out. Then it was 5:30 p.m. At that point, I turned my phone off and met up with some friends for a drink.
Later that night I saw she had called around 7 p.m. Now, you might think this is harsh, but for me, I have high expectations and when she didn’t call when she said she would, that was strike two and there wasn’t going to be a strike three.
If I would have pursued a relationship with someone who behaved in this way, I would have been hurt and disappointed. See for me, keeping your word and being punctual are two non negotiables for relationships.
For you, there may be other issues that you won’t settle on. So make sure you know what your expectations are and that you set the tone and make sure you are not investing your time and energy into something that will only be a disappointment.
Author Resource:
Bill Preston has been studying personal development and dating advice for the past 5 years and is a guest instructor at the top Pick Up Artist Boot camp in NYC. He loves sharing his experience and expertise with other men looking to improve their lives. Find out more at http://www.puaforums.com
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