There are too many people out in the dating world who need to take a break, step back and spend some time working on improving themselves before they attempt to form a partnership with another. To truly find the best person for you, you need to first be the best you can be.
One of the first steps I recommend when people seek advice on meeting women is to do a very careful self analysis. There are so many areas to look at that I would need more than one article to adequately explore them all, but I will break it down into a few key components:
More than anything else, if you want to meet the girl or your dreams, you should love yourself. You should have good (not arrogant) self confidence and self esteem. What I mean by this is you should know that you are worthy of love, that you are a unique individual who has a lot to offer this world and another person. Don’t even think about doing anything else until you have taken steps to love yourself.
This might be through therapy, self improvement books or careful self realization.
The next important step to improve yourself is physically. You don’t need to be a bodybuilder, you don’t need to be super trim, but you should be fit. If you have a build that is heavyset, well make sure you are still fit and in good health. You can achieve this through exercise and healthy eating.
The next step in self improvement physically is to have great hygiene and always wear clothes that are neat and clean, whatever your style or budget.
The third component in self improvement is about what is inside you. It is about being positive. You can start by surrounding yourself with positive people. Get rid of those people in your life or in your world who bring you down. Start spending your time with people who make you a better person.
Find the goodness in life. Stop complaining and start counting your blessings. This part of self improvement is about appreciating your life and enjoying it. This pays off in more ways than one. Your life improves and as a natural consequence, you become more attractive to others. People are drawn to other people who are fun, positive. It is a natural charisma.
A fourth step in self improvement is goal setting. Set some goals for yourself. You might have daily goals, such as taking a 10 minute walk, eating three servings of vegetables and getting 8 hours of sleep.
You might have weekly goals, such as playing volleyball three nights a week with the guys. You might have monthly goals such as saving $500 a month. You might have yearly goals, such as buying a house. It doesn’t’ matter what they are, just write them down. Have goals and work toward them.
The last bit of self improvement advice is to frequently sit down with pen and paper and evaluate your life. Is what you are doing working? If not, make some changes. Try them out for awhile and then take the time to re evaluate. Eventually you will keep what works and discard what doesn’t.
Truly the key to self improvement is realizing that it takes work and is an ongoing process – we really all are works in progress.
Author Resource:
Bill Preston has been studying personal development and dating advice for the past 5 years and is a guest instructor at the top Pick Up Artist Boot camp in NYC. He loves sharing his experience and expertise with other men looking to improve their lives. Find out more at http://www.puaforums.com
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