The cost of today's average wedding has gotten so high, you might
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think that the application of the word "budget" doesn't apply.
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Of course you'd be wrong.
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Whether you're spending $3,000 (far below average, even in the
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least expensive areas of the U.S., but I know several people
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who've done it quite successfully) or you're spending $30,000
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(only a bit about the average cost of a wedding today, so average
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means plenty of people spend more), you still need a budget.
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A budget isn't necessarily an attempt to spend less. It's a plan
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for where you'll spend the money you do spend, regardless of the
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amount.
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I hope you're among the lucky few who can afford to spare no
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expense when planning the wedding of your dreams. On the other
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hand, I know some fairly wealthy people, and I don't know anyone
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who didn't angst to a certain extent over the cost of their
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wedding.
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Most people simply can't afford or just would rather not to empty
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their savings and run up their credit for their wedding.
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Weddings have this somewhat scary habit of being rapidly followed
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by even MORE expensive things to spend your hard-earned money on,
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more permanent things, like buying a house and having a baby (or
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2).
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Trickier still is the fact that many brides (the traditional
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planners of weddings) are marrying a bit later in life, when
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they're well ensconced in a career and don't have their weekdays
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free for interviewing wedding vendors and sampling cake.
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Do Wedding Planners Cost or Save?
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Of course professional wedding planners have to be paid, so in
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that way they obviously cost you. However an argument can be
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made (and is made, both by wedding planners themselves and by
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brides who've been happy with their professional planners) that
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having a professional wedding planner can save you money in other
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areas. An experienced wedding planner is involved in several
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weddings each year. This means that they'll have ongoing
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relationships with certain wedding vendors, and it behooves those
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vendors to cut the wedding planner a break on prices, so that
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she'll continue to use their services at all of the weddings
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she's involved with.
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Not that it affects your budget, but it also behooves wedding
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vendors to keep wedding planners happy with the service the
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vendor provides. As an individual, you're not likely to see
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these vendors again after you finish your wedding (at least not
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for a good long while, preferably not ever). A wedding planner,
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on the other hand, will see these vendors again and again; she's
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a repeat customer for them.
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Vendors will, of course, value a repeat customer more than a one
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-time customer. They will convey this value with financial breaks
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and extra-good service. If push comes to shove, they may convey
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it by giving a wedding planner something (such as service on a
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popular date or that includes a hand-to-find item) that they have
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to take away from an individual bride. I know a bride who was
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promised a wedding venue for a specific date and then a week
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later the venue canceled on her, because they had a "repeat
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customer" who wanted that date and was willing to pay extra. My
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friend was not given the opportunity to pay extra or to outbid
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the repeat customer. She just lost the date.
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If you find a wedding planner with a great reputation (with both
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brides and local vendors), you may get the best of everything: A
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wedding planner who can easily get you top-notch vendors and
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negotiate powerful bargains.
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Even with a terrific wedding planner in your employ, you should
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still do your own research and talk to your planner with a strict
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budget in mind. If the planner can't control costs
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adequately, it's always your responsibility to offer cost-saving
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ideas of your own. If your wedding planner doesn't stick to your
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budget, then she's the one who did a poor job, but it's still you
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who are out the money. The extra cost doesn't come out of the
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planner's pocket!
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Still, no wedding planner is likely to save you more than she
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charges you. Hiring a wedding planner will result in higher
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financial wedding costs for you. The area in which an excellent
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planner will certainly save you, however, is in time. You'll
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need to invest far fewer hours toward organizing and ensuring the
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details of your wedding if you hire a wedding planner than if you
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don't.
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The question for you to answer is whether you have more time or
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more money to invest in your wedding. Only you can answer that.
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What's The Cost
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Wedding planners can charge you in any of three ways:
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o A percentage of the total cost of your wedding
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o An hourly charge
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o A flat fee per specific services
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Although it's the least common, I recommend looking for vendors
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who use the last of those options. The problem with the
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percentage charge is that it creates an incredible conflict of
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interest for the planner. In essence, the more your wedding
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costs you, the more the planner gets paid. That's the opposite
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of how it should work, in my opinion! Most planners are ethical,
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and they live and die by recommendations, so they're unlikely to
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triple your expenses just to increase their cut, but at some
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level of consciousness, it's just not encouraging them to watch
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every penny in the way that I, personally, would like. If you're
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working with a planner who charges a percentage (15% is typical),
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talk about paying them a percentage of your budgeted wedding
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costs (rather than actual costs), plus a percentage of any amount
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they can come in under budget. Essentially offer them a bonus
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for coming in under budget. This will somewhat offset the innate
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conflict of interest in the percentage-based payment structure.
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An hourly fee at least solves the problem that the percentage fee
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causes, but it causes an analogous problem with time. When a
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wedding planner (or any vendor) charges you by the hour, they
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lose their incentive to move fast, and you have very little
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control over this. Since you're not doing the work, it's tough
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for you to say exactly how long it should take. If you're
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working with a wedding planner who charges by the hour, set a
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maximum number (or range) of hours you'll pay for, while making
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sure that the planner agrees that the maximum you set is an
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adequate amount of time to plan your entire wedding.
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Planners who charge a flat fee for each specific service they
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provide give you great flexibility. You don't have to hire them
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to plan every part of your wedding. If you want them to handle
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the venue and catering, while you hire your cousin's band and
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have your mom make your dress, you have lots of flexibility in
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paying for just the services you need, but no others. Also, by
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charging a flat fee per service, the planner maintains all normal
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(and desirable) goals to get the work done quickly and
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inexpensively. They don't get paid more for failing at one of
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those goals, as they do with the other payment methods.
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Unfortunately, planners dislike this payment structure because
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they fear that there will be something unusually difficult about
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your wedding, and they'll have to eat the cost of dealing with
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it. Particularly wedding planners who are new to the field feel
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uncomfortable trying to predict ahead of time how much time and
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effort it will take to provide the services you require. If you
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propose the use of this payment structure to a wedding planner
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who normally charges differently, make it clear that you're aware
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of this concern and find it reasonable. Discuss the fact that
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you're willing to accept add-on charges (probably by the hour) if
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an unusual situation, beyond the planner's control, occurs. As
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with all types of wedding planners, be sure to ask to speak to
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references, and talk to these brides-who-have-gone-before-you
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about exactly what the wedding planner did and didn't do for each
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service she provided.
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Keep in mind that just because a particular wedding planner
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usually charges clients a certain way, doesn't mean they can't
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get paid by another method. Most wedding planners are freelance
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agents, who can define their own rules for how they get paid.
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Perhaps they've always charged percentages in the past, but that
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doesn't mean they couldn't agree to get paid a flat fee for
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specific services for your wedding, if that's the only way you're
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willing to pay. Of course you must be aware that this also means
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that they can walk away and not take you as a client, if they
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really don't want to accept the payment structure you're
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interested in.
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Negotiate with a wedding planner just as you would with any other
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vendor. Remember that you're hiring them. They are your hired
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help. If you don't like their terms, you can find a different
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wedding planner to contract with. You're the one holding all the
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cards. Play them.
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(c) All Rights Reserved -- Debbie MacGuffie
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