Jealousy and negative feelings might be the number one obstacle standing in your way of getting back together with your ex. While you might think that it's the person or people who are trying to steal your ex away from you forever that are your biggest enemy, it's actually that jealousy that lies within your own heart that is the biggest relationship killer known to man.
Even if you try to tell yourself that your jealousy proves that you really love your ex, the truth is something just a little bit different. I guarantee that your ex isn't going to look at it the same and if you act out of that jealousy you're only going to push your ex away and make yourself look like a fool. So, what do you do with these horrible feelings? What should you do when these jealous feelings start to fill your head and you feel that tightness in your chest that tells you that you're going to lose the one you love the most forever if you don't act quickly?
First, recognize this feeling for what it is. It's only a feeling and it's not based in reality. It's core is a feeling of insecurity and a deep and abiding love for the person of your dreams. The thought of losing that person causes fear and panic in your heart and your mind is constantly looking for threats that might remove that person from your life. This fear manifests as jealousy and unrealistic thoughts or scenarios that your mind generates to ward off these threats. Unfortunately, these thoughts are not based in reality and often we wind up acting based upon these thoughts. We not only offend the person that we love the most but we also destroy the value that they have for us.
Second, once you have recognized that what you are feeling is jealousy, do your best to put it out of your mind. Tell yourself that there's a pretty good chance that what you're thinking is no based in reality. If nothing else, avoid acting based upon these thoughts and if you have to, completely isolate yourself from your ex to keep from doing damage to your relationship. Know that in time everything will be revealed and even if things are the way that you think they are or worse, jealousy will do nothing to help your cause.
Third, do something to improve yourself. Do something to distract yourself from these feelings until they pass. Doing something that will improve yourself and your mood is just a side benefit. Reading a book, working out or watching a movie that improves your mood are all good things that you can do to put these jealous thoughts out of your mind. Basically, jealousy is a no win situation. If you accuse your ex of something then they will think that you're crazy, either way. If you hold on to these feelings then you will find that you're only hurting yourself. You are in this kind of alone so the best thing that you can do is to keep from reacting. Put the thoughts out of your mind and be strong.
When the time comes for you to talk with your ex again or if you run across them in public, resist the urge to act jealous. If you don't think that you can pull it off, avoid interacting with your ex. It's better to say nothing than to act in a jealous manner. Be careful because these emotions can also manifest themself in your tone of voice, your body language and facial expressions. No matter how well you think you're hiding them, your jealousy will be apparent to everyone that you see. Instead, remove this destructive emotion from your life as soon as possible if you ever hope to get back together with your ex.
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