Have people told you that you're wasting your time trying to get your ex back? They might be correct but not in the way that you might think!
Friends and family might tell you that you should move on. They tell you that your ex isn't good enough for you or that your ex treated you poorly. They tell you that you're wasting your time even thinking about trying to get back together with your ex. While it might be true that your ex didn't treat you as well as you might have liked both before your breakup and after, there was something about them that you loved and that means everything to you.
While well-meaning friends and family might try to make you feel better, only you can make the decision of who you spend your time and your life with. If you have found someone that you truly love and at one point they loved you also, then you owe it to yourself to at least try to get back together with them. If you were both happy together at one point and there was something special between you then why not try to get back together? Your friends and family probably see that you're upset and they want you to be happy and to feel better as soon as possible.
Now, there is some truth to the fact that you might be wasting your time while trying to get your ex back. By that I mean that you are literally wasting time. You're probably spending a lot of time sitting around wondering what your ex is doing, what went wrong, what you need to do to convince or trick your ex into coming back to you and a multitude of unproductive time killers.
While you might be very stressed out and very upset by your breakup and everything that is going on after your breakup, it's important that you start to take care of the things that you have some control over if you hope to win your ex back. This mean, rebuilding your life into something that is going to be attractive to your ex. This means taking care of yourself, analyzing your life, your goals and your dreams and starting down the path towards those goals and dreams.
Just think about this for a moment. How do you envision your life with your ex? How do you want things to be? What can you do today to bring you one step closer to those goals and what are you doing today to make those dreams your reality. Start today by writing down what you want your life to be like and start making things happen. Give your ex some time to cool off and for time to heal those wounds from your breakup. Allow your emotions and your ex's emotions to regain some sort of a normal level and get into a normal sort of routine in your lives.
There will come a time when your ex is going to become curious and miss you. They will get in touch with you again very soon. How do you want them to perceive you? Do you want to present an image of someone that is attractive and who has their life together or do you want them to think that nothing has changed in your life. Get to work and change your life so you can get your ex back as soon as possible.