Building self esteem can be a challenge that may seem like an uphill climb. But with the right tools strengthening self esteem is possible. Self esteem issues can arise from many sources, not very nice parents, horrific experience, bullying at school, and rejection from peers or a poor view of how you view yourself. Creating self esteem that is strong is all about changing the way you think and view yourself.
Self esteem can be hurt and broken when parents do not give their children love but instead give them lots of negative feedback. Many adults with low self esteem can trace it back to childhood when their parents often treated them unkind. It is important to address the issues you remember. For example when you did something wrong as a kid, how did you parents respond? Did they communicate with you in a positive way or did they say unkind things.
There are several ways that parents can hurt a child`s self esteem as they parent; label their child, call them names, give negative feedback, say nothing positive, physical or neglectful abuse, no praise for jobs well done. A child growing up with all or even just a few of these things can often become a person with low self esteem.
As an adult who can address that their self esteem issues are related back to their childhood, they can think about ways their parents should have handled those situations and realize that their parents were wrong. It is important to surround yourself with positive people and not have friends or partners that treat you the same way.
Often self esteem issues can be a result of a hurtful relationship with a partner. When people have been together for a while, there is a level of comfort and a level of security. And when a partner is saying hurtful things and becomes an abusive person physically or even just emotionally, it can sometimes make the person feel trapped. They don`t want to leave because they feel comfortable or afraid or maybe there are kids or property involved. Realizing that how your partner treats you are how you might begin to view yourself might be just the thing to have you packing.
Constant rejection from peers can leave you feeling hurt and with low self esteem. It is important to remember that there are people out there that will treat you nice; it`s just a matter of finding them. If you have issues with making friends then it might be a good idea to try new hobbies and expand your world as you know it. Doing new things will have you meeting people who are doing the same thing as you. That will be a great way to meet people and begin friendships. It doesn`t matter how many friends you have as long as you have one good one.
Building self esteem means that you have to view yourself as an important person. And being important has nothing to do with how you look on the outside; it`s about feeling confident and liking yourself. Just because you may have been exposed to negative relationships in the past, does not mean that their negativity has to follow you through life. The past can be left in the past and a fresh start can be made.
Try to give yourself positive feedback, reward yourself for great things that you accomplish, even if it`s just finishing your holiday shopping early! And remember that the only view about yourself that is important is the one you come up with. If you see yourself as great then you most definitely are!
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Roberto Sedycias works as IT consultant for http://www.polomercantil.com.br/
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