My son is in his late teens:early twenties:mid twenties and has been going out with this girl for a few years now, and recently they started having a few issuesproblems. The young lady began accusing him of loving her to much, and being too attached to her, and telling him that his desire to be with her was not normal and began saying that it was strange. My wife and I have both been close to our boy and his girlfriend, and have really never observed anything that we felt was even remotely odd or what we would consider to be abnormal.
Come to find out, this young lady had been discussing her and my son's relationship with some pin headed shrink. And since then it has come to my attention that there are evidently a slew of pin headed shrinks that are leading couples away from permanent long term relationships which is the fiber that holds traditional America together.
These pin headed shrinks have some how developed the ideology that if you are madly in love and very attached to your significant other, that this is somehow a mental disorder. They are labeling what we called good old fashioned love in our day as some sort of mental deficiency. They are referring to the signs of love as being an addiction of some sort, or some type of abnormal dependency. All I've got to say is give us a freaking break. It's love. It's just good old fashioned can't live without you crazy love. End of story.
Now his mother and I were high school sweethearts, we got married young, and have been married for over thirty years now. So in discussing this, his mother and I began to realize that it seems as though today's generation along with these misguided so called shrinks or counselors are attempting to twist up, downplay, degrade, and label the emotions and feelings associated with just good old fashioned normal love.
I can tell you now that looking back to the years when his mother and I were young, based on the standards of today's generation, we were definitely "too in love", and yes "too attached" to one another. In our day, we just called it being in love. I literally felt like I could not live without her. When she and I would break up over arguments as all couples do, after a month I felt like I was going to die without her. I would truly get to the point where I would feel like I was going to go crazy without the gal I was so in love with, and the thought of her being with some one else was way too much for me to even think of.
That's not dysfuntional or strange, that's just plain old fashioned love. That is the kind of love that has kept us in a marriage with all its challenges for so many years. That is the kind of true old fashioned love that has even kept my parents married for over forty years. And call me jealous, your darned right I'm jealous as she is. This is normal. During me and my wife's generation, if you were that in love, and that attached, you simply got married, and sealed the deal for life.
It seems as though in today's generation everything is a great deal more superficial, and almost set on the idea of being a temporary trial situation. It's almost as though the idea is ok love me kind of, but just really let's get mildly attached, set up a temporary relationship that will be easy to quickly move away from if it begins to get complicated, and this is just a shame.
I truly hope that this is not what my children's or grandchildren's generations do with love. Relationships and love is the key to great healthy long lives, strong family's,and the survival of a traditional America.
So if a pin headed shrink or some friend tries to tell you that what you are feeling is abnormal, or dysfunctional, or if someone tries to tell you are "too in love" or "too attached", take that as a compliment. Respectfully thank them for noticing that you have been blessed enough to have found true old fashioned love, and ask that they pray for you and your significant other for the wisdom and strength needed to keep that love forever, and wish for them that there comes a day they will be blessed enough to find the same.
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