Saying that you are sorry - apologizing - can be one of the most vexing and complex issues in any relationship. This is true regardless of the context or circumstances involved or who the person is. It is extremely difficult - in order to get it right and have the desired outcome - if the person to whom you are apologizing to is your partner. Finally, if your partner is actually your Ex partner then the level of difficulty can seem overwhelming if you really want to get your ex back.
There are two dimensions of this issue - other than just deciding to do it and getting it done - that must be clearly understood if you are to accomplish this feat with success and the kind of outcome and related success that you are seeking. The first element is that of the very nature of the relationship between an apology and its acceptance - meaning that degree of forgiveness that is the keystone of moving past this point and onto other related issues. This is crucial if you are trying to get ex back.
Most people tend to put the apology/forgiveness interaction into the same category as those more incidental politeness-sharing things. The reverse is absolutely the case. Real apologies only happen when the person seeking to make them is genuinely sorry and the result of considerable soul searching. Without this element on your part the effort and the hopeful result of this gesture will be meaningless.
The other aspect of this process has to do with the true nature of what forgiveness really is and what it accomplishes. Without forgiveness there can be no real moving on. However, most people believe that the person who is forgiven is the recipient of a noble gesture on the part of the injured party and nothing more. In reality the person who is forgiving is really doing it for themselves - as a way to cleanse the hurt and put it in the past.
If you are the villain rather than the victim, and you know it is critical to getting your ex back or at least saving your relationship, you should understand only two things: how best to do it and how to deliver it.
Relationship expert all agree that putting the apology in writing is the best idea. There are several reasons for this. First it will allow for the calm and private understanding on the part of the other person. Secondly, you can spend the time necessary to say it the way you want it to be received. Third, it will give the other person a document that they can reread if they are searching for true meaning. Finally, it will definitely register as being genuine if you spend about 500 words to accomplish the task. This alone is well worth it since it will be obvious that you felt strongly enough about it to spend the effort to put it in writing.
Mail the sealed letter to their home - never their office - or have it personally delivered by a mutual friend or relative and wait several days for a response. If none occurs, muster you confidence and give your ex a call. This process may be the best way to get your ex back.
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Author Resource:-> James Roberts is Senior Article Editor for What-Why-How researching and writing on numerous topics including how to get ex back and real solutions for how to get your ex back that work fast!
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