Millions of couples in America are striving to keep their marriage afloat. It is not uncommon for this to occur when something called a separation stimulus - like relocation or the like - causes the stress already present to really manifest itself. That stimulus could be a change is career that causes relocation, kids leaving the next, etc. - but something that changes the landscape or the relationship. This often takes existing stress on the marriage and warps it into a death roll. This means that which was twisted become finally broken - or it can appear so. The damage, oftentimes, is not infidelity or abuse. It is simply the effect of all the relationship pressure that exists on every marriage - the stress of modern life. With kids, careers, money and home, and a host of other, often unique issues, it is no wonder that many if not most marriages are under great stress.
The resolution of this degree of stress in this many marriages is and has been widely attempted and studied. It has also been studies and managed in university and laboratory settings - with the aim of learning that which we may not know. What can you do to save yours?
There are a number of ways and techniques that can be brought to bear on this problem - from books and tapes to psychological counseling. The topic of much current discussion is becoming your own marriage counselor. While that might sound like setting your own broken leg or pulling your own impacted tooth, it is really no joke. People are having remarkable success tending to their own marriage problems.
The key to making it work seems to surround two separate elements - joint commitment and genuine research. If both parties are not truly involved in the attempt to save their marriage it is unlikely to be successful. Having said that, even committed couples often flounder because they are not really sure what to do. It tends to be the same thing over and over again. Women drift apart from lack of emotional support; men separate psychologically when they feel over-controlled.
Start with continual and detailed discussions at a genuinely intimate level to bluntly identify and document what is really going on. Next, you should list the issues that are the most significant - from most to least - that you feel you need. That list should be followed by your response to your mate’s list - from easiest to hardest to provide or sustain. In this manner you can both ask and respond to the needs and support of each other.
If you are really trying to get ex back or are crafting a plan to win your ex back this perspective may be key to understanding how. In any case, you may find that an attempt to get your ex back might be met with a willing partner.
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Author Resource:-> James Roberts is Senior Article Editor for What-Why-How researching and writing on numerous topics including how to get ex back and real solutions for how to get ex back that work fast!
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