Millions of couples have discovered that their once great relationship has fallen into one of strain and degradation. There are obviously two kinds of categories that these duets may find themselves in - one that is event-driven; one that is progressively degraded. If your duet is in the latter category - event-driven - then you should consider skipping the second paragraph and going to the third one.
If you are in the slowly reduced quality category then you should not dismay, since there are many people who have been there and managed to salvage their relationship. Relationships are under greater stress in our society than ever before. From career, to finances, to kids to home and family, there are growing and continual stresses on even the best of relationships. If you are in this category, of a degraded and sliding in the wrong direction relationship, then you should take steps to halt the slide and begin to make reparations to get it back to where it was - perhaps even better.
Not unlike other forms of human intervention in people-related scenarios, correcting a relationship requires to ingredients: an understanding of what is wrong; an awareness and skill level necessary to fix it. Let’s deal with the first one - understanding or diagnosis - to determine what it is that you need to fix. This is the first step in the correction of any problem in a relationship and it requires careful attention so no mistakes are made. If this part is done incorrectly, you could wind up making things worse by trying to fix something that is not the problem - or not broken at all!
You should start with a thorough analysis and discussion with your mate and document in writing what you both feel is wrong. Both of you should then define what you feel is needed - by you - for things to get better - from most to least importance. You both should then respond to each other’s list and create a prioritized list of how you could participate in helping your mate obtain that which they say they need - in least-to-most difficult to accomplish. This will produce a combined list of issues that can be addressed - with both your responses reflecting how difficult it will be for both of you to produce the changes that the other one needs. This jointly-produced list will be the first cut at getting what you both want, since many of the items you listed as important will fall within the relatively easy-to-accomplish sector or your mate’s response. This modified response scenario will help both of you give and take in the process of repairing of your relationship.
If you are working on an even-driven degradation of your relationship you should get the problem very well defined and determine if the transgressor did it intentionally. If so, apologies are in order from that side of the relationship. Assuming that the injured party accepts and is willing to grant some genuine forgiveness, then the two of you can move on.
If you are attempting to get ex back or if you are developing a plan to win your ex back this type of repair strategy may give you structure. Regardless, you may learn that an attempt to get your ex back might be met with a willing participant.
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Author Resource:-> James Roberts is Senior Article Editor for What-Why-How researching and writing on numerous topics including how to get ex back and real solutions for how to get your ex back that work fast!
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