Does it appear as though your ex boyfriend is distancing further away from you no matter how hard you attempt to win him back? Are you are at the end of your rope looking for some surefire way that get him back?
You may be experiencing the usual heartbreak feelings right now, it looks as though your life has come to an stop. You may be asking yourself how did it even happen, trying to identify one precise moment in your mind that will account for why just days ago you were boyfriend/girlfriend and now you have parted ways. You have come to the conclusion that breaking up was a mistake and now you would like him back. Sound familiar? If so, read on.
The good news is that there are a few steps, if followed correctly, will significantly improve your chances of getting back together with your ex boyfriend.
1) The first thing you need to do is to completely separate yourself, mentally, from your ex for a period of time. As difficult as this may seem, there is a reason behind it and that is that it will assist you to be more successful in winning your ex back. Perhaps you have been trying to contact your ex too much, texting him, calling him, leaving messages and writing letters. As a last effort you are trying to get him to feel sorry for you, hoping this will bring him back. This will not work and you need to put an end to it now. You need to shift your focus and energy from your ex to your next move in getting your boyfriend back - the correct way. Yes, this will be a challenging time for you but it will be well worth it given that you will be doing the right actions that will inspire your ex to come back to you rather than steer him further away.
2) What will happen next is that your ex boyfriend will take notice that you have stopped pursuing him, he will start to go through his own shift in emotions. You see when you pursue him and he pushes you away, he is in control. By leaving him alone, you now gain control, your ex will soon start to realize that you are gone for good and he will now start wondering what you are feeling and thinking. You will now have a mysterious 'appeal' and your ex will be prompted to missing you, which would not be the case if you were texting him and calling him all the time. Get it?
3) If you have managed to get this far, congratulations! It takes a lot of discipline to get this far, so keep going, your reward is coming soon! By this point you may have learned that by doing the exact opposite of what you want to do is actually working better. You see, when it comes to break-ups, you are dealing with human nature so you have to know how to work with it not against it. You may have heard the old expression "If you love someone, set them free" this is one principle that has a lot of truth to it as you soon shall see. This is the stage where you just let the pot simmer, so to speak, simply do nothing and wait. You need to allow you ex to process all the emotions he must going through right about now. This is the stage where he will start to remember why he loved you in the first place and all the good times you had together.. By doing this you are giving him time to reflect, soon he will forget the incident that led up to your break-up and start remembering the good old days with you. These pleasant memories will make him want to revive the old flame by getting back with you. You need patience during this stage, this process may take some time, but you need to follow through.
Always remember to stay grounded during this process. It is not easy because you are naturally driven by your emotions and you want results to be fast. You will not want to disconnect yourself and just let the pot simmer because it is opposite of what you really want to do which is to never let go and smother your ex with text messages telling him how sorry you are or how badly you want him back. As much as you are tempted to do this, don't! You will not win him back with these desperate attempts. You need to allow him his space and the time to reflect on the good times you had together and not come across as a crazy ex who is now stalking him.Doing it right may be harder, but it works, and that is ultimately what you want -- your ex boyfriend back!
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