Almost everyone knows someone these days who is going through a relationship breakup. The question that we all are asking is how do we cope with it? This is a vexing question and has many subsets and perspectives. The word ‘deal’ is used in our title because it place neutrality on the question; ‘cope’ tends to suggest that one is an inactive player, more simply a passive victim.
Being an active player suggests - at least - that you are taking action of some sort to either withstand its affects or counter them. If you are the one in the crucible - with a damaged or dying/dead relationship - you are likely just searching for understanding. How it happened; what can be done to prevent yourself or your mate from being devastated; analyzing the probability of recovery of the relationship - these are typical perspectives. Finally, breakup carries a ‘past tense’ connotation, suggesting that it is already over and the best that could be hoped for is some sort of after-the-fact reconciliation.
If you are a principal in such a circumstance - i.e. your relationship is on the ropes and you are in need of help just to keep going - then you should consider exactly where your relationship is at this moment. Many times people believe that ‘it is over’ when, in reality, it is far from that point. This is especially true if hurt feelings drove one of the partner to shout “I hate you!”, which does carry a note of finality with it. In reality, any verbal outcry is normally emotionally driven and the content of the words spoken - or shouted - may not be reflective of where exactly the relationship actually stands.
If you are a principal in a relationship that is damaged but is not dead and you wish to keep it alive then time may not be on your side. Get some books, tapes or whatever and bone-up on the best advice out there for whatever your course of action may be. That is the subject of another article; not this one.
If your duet is deceased and buried then you should be about getting on with the rest of your life. This simply means understanding whether the breakup was for the best or was it a tragedy of biblical proportions. After that you should indeed take steps to get on with your life. There are many books and tapes dealing with the after affects of a relationship breakup. Obtain several of these and glean from them an understanding of what advice seems right for you. We recommend leaving what is acknowledged as history to history. Restart your life and throw yourself into it, including work, play, or both. Try a new hobby. If you are the gregarious type get back in the game and invite someone to lunch.
Finally have a post-mortem with yourself and take stock of what you learned, what to do and not do next, and what it all means.
If you are trying to get ex back or plan to win your ex back you should start with strong advice from an expert. Making sure that you start with good information before trying to get your ex back will certainly enhance your chances.
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Author Resource:-> James Roberts is Senior Article Editor for What-Why-How researching and writing on numerous topics including how to get ex back and real solutions for how to get your ex back that work fast!
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