Even Cinderella and Prince Charming went through not so great phases (can you imagine dealing with those sisters??), and your relationship likely has too. Big problems, small tiffs, they can all leave you out of sorts with each other. That doesn't mean it's the end of your relationship thank goodness.
Along with the good news, there's some bad news. When you're part of a troubled twosome it can be difficult to see ahead to better times. And that lack of clarity can make people do some really stupid things; all in the hopes of saving their relationship.
I understand, I really do, because I've been there. If you want proof, keep reading for a sampling of three of the most common mistakes couples make to put their relationship back on track. Oh, and for the record, I didn't have a baby.
Have a Baby
There is just so much wrong with this it's hard to know where to start. That it even needs to be mentioned is just sad. It happens though, too often. People get scared and think that an addition to the family will bring them closer together as a couple, even if that means tricking their partner into an "accidental" pregnancy. It will do no such thing; and using an innocent to try to patch your relationship? Abhorrent!
Invade your partner's privacy
"Maybe if I just sneak a peak at his text messages, it'll give me some magical insight to what he's thinking and then everything will work out!" Maybe you're crazy. Maybe you're delusional. Maybe you're breaking laws...and maybe you're getting broken up with.
Checking up on a partner by surreptitiously rifling through his communications is a road that goes straight to a freak out. If you find something chances are it'll be inadmissible in court ('cause what you're doing is probably illegal) and you'll be labeled a snoop. If you find nothing, you'll still be a snoop, and a sneaky one at that.
Move in with each other
When the idea of facing your problems becomes a downer (and let's face it, who looks forward to that), the natural response is often to become physically closer. So the couple will move in together. It's an illogical, if understandable, response that does nothing to solve the underlying issues in your relationship.
Understandable because you figure moving in together is one way of staying close to your partner. But guess what, your problems are going to follow you wherever you go. Though the change of scenery may provide a temporary respite, when your problems resurface, and the will, you now have the added responsibility, and complication, of a shared lease or mortgage.
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