There isn't much in life that is going to devastate you like a spouse cheating. This is a person you've trusted with everything, after all. Nothing cuts quite so deep.
Let me say this right now: Despite the agony that you're in, you are going to survive this. For every 10 women you know, as many as three or four have experienced a spouse cheating, and they made it through. It won't be easy, but I've made it through, and you can and will, too, I promise.
Here's what's crucial that you need to know:
Confront reality.
By that I mean, don't stick your head in the stand and think this is going to take of itself. It won't. You've caught your spouse cheating. That demands your attention and that you act in way that is in your best interest. You may be used to thinking in terms of yourself in a unit with your partner, but right now that needs to change. You need to be concerned for yourself and your personal well-being.
Talk about it.
When you've caught a spouse cheating, this is easier said than done. You've mad. Hopping mad and you want to vent. You're partner is going to have absorb that for a bit, but then it's time to move on. Why? Why did you do it? If you can get an honest answer to that without the shame or guilt, you may be on your way to having a better relationship than the one you had before.
Don't take the blame.
You want to understand each other, right. That was this is all about, isn't it. Listen as much as you talk. Have a sincere interest to what is being said. This is your life and someone in which you have a huge emotional investment. You can throw it all away. That's easy enough. But, do you really want to?
Don't run it into the ground.
You have to do this to survive. Otherwise, you're going to be driven directly to the nuthouse. You've caught your spouse cheating. What about now? What are they saying? What is their intent? If they are still pursuing the affair, then adios. But, more than likely want they want is a better relationship with you. How you going to get there?
Don't live in Angry Town.
You're going to be mad. So mad you can't see straight. You're going to think of doing some pretty horrible things, to the spouse cheating, to yourself, to other person involved. Don't. When you fight fire with fire, the city is burned to the ground. Is that really what you want?
Give yourself enough space to indulge your hurt. You deserve it. But don't take up residence there. At some point, it's going to be time to move on. Life waits for no one. Don't let the bitterness of this devour you. Demand more of yourself.
Be honest in your expectations. There is no over-night fix for any of this. It is going to take time. May be a lot of time. Be prepared for that.
Although you've caught a spouse cheating, there are brighter days ahead. Know that happiness and joy still abounds. Sometimes all it takes is a simple turn of the head.
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