Relationships can be rewarding, painful, tough, disappointing, or just plain aggravating. In a nutshell, that explains just about every marriage that has ever taken place. No one ever said relationships were easy; certainly not marriage. Any two people who are planning to spend 30, 40 or 50 years together will definitely have some bad spots. Some can be repaired, others can't. Having trouble? Here is how to save a marriage.
It takes two to tango, and it usually takes two to cause disharmony in a relationship. If you and your spouse find that you are arguing and fighting all the time, it's because you don't listen to each other. No one listens after the voice is raised to a certain level. Listening occurs in a calm environment. How do you get someone to listen? Ask them to listen! It takes practice. Listening is a learned skill and one that needs constant attention. You can't listen once and then think you've done your job.
Communication is the key to any relationship. Marriage, employment, and even training a pet. Listening is an art and this must be honed in order to communicate effectively. Talking is only a small part of communicating; listening is the other, more difficult, and often neglected part. When your spouse believes you don't listen, you are proving that you just don't care. Listen!
Relationships need a base to build on. Some of the best marriages of all times were between two people who had little if anything in common. Why? In reality, having things in common doesn't build a marriage; it builds a friendship. You still need undying love and committed respect to build a long lasting marriage. Without that, it's doomed to fail.
Anyone who has ever been to a marriage counselor will agree that the first question at the first session is, "Do you want to save your marriage?" Obviously if you don't, there's no reason to be there. However, it's a question that needs to be answered honestly. You either want to save your marriage and are willing to work on it, or you aren't.
To get your marriage back on track there are some simple things to do - probably things you should have been doing all along: listen and react appropriately to issues that are brought to your attention; be nice; bring flowers and wine for the heck of it; spend time together - and that doesn't mean sitting in a room together watching TV; offer to cook or take your wife out to dinner if she's had a busy day. Don't sit around expecting to get waited on.
Above all else: listen, communicate, stop yelling, pay attention, and be attentive.
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