Without a doubt, things are pretty bad for you the moment. If you've just been dumped by your partner, the entire situation can seem hopeless and the possibility of getting your ex girlfriend back, slim and none. It's all you can do to lift your head from the pillow in the morning and carry on with life - nothing seems to matter much anymore.
Sound familiar?
Well, one thing you need to know is that it's perfectly normal to feel this way in the days following the breakup. Nothing is really going to make you feel better at this point and, unfortunately, it's going to take a few days before you start feeling normal again. However, there are steps you need to take during this time that will ensure that you have every opportunity to get her back in the future. It's at this time that most guys make their mistakes and really blow it on a large scale. If you avoid some of these common pitfalls, you have an excellent chance of getting her back.
At the moment, the number one thing you should be doing is nothing at all. Yes, it sounds a little perplexing, but the fact of the matter is that the more contact you have with her right now, the worst your situation is likely to become. There's nothing you can say to her that is going to make her change her mind, and nothing is going to resolve this situation instantly. On the other hand, there is a tremendous opportunity for you to really make some serious mistakes.
Specifically, you want to avoid calling her, texting, or sending her an e-mail professing your undying love. This is not going to work - period. It is going to come off as desperate and needy, and that's the exact opposite impression you want to be leaving at this point.
Instead, put the cell phone away for now and find something to occupy your time with. You may need to give it at least a few weeks before you attempt any sort of contact. By this time, the highly charged, emotional situation you found yourself in will have subsided. There's nothing worse than trying to communicate when tensions and emotions are running high.
Another thing to keep in mind is that your relationship is over, as you know it. After something like this, the biggest mistake you can make is to assume that you can get her back with a few carefully placed words. If you want the relationship back, acknowledge that it's dead and that you have to start from scratch. Starting from scratch means that you can't tell her how much you love her or that you miss her - that is only going to scare her away.
Instead, you should be trying your best to simply treat her as a person. Leave the romance out of it for now and concentrate on showing her why she fell in love with you to begin with. Be confident and charming and don't show all your cards. If you insist on talking only about getting back together, it's going to make you look desperate and needy.
Have wonderful conversations and really get to know her as a person, not as a potential lover. She's going to respect you for this and it's going to create more desire as time goes on.
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