Once you get past the initial approach and start talking with a girl the next questions is often how to keep a conversation going. You have probably experienced this at least once. when you're sitting across the table or next to a beautiful woman on the couch and the words are just flowing as if you had a shared brain, there is nowhere else in the world you want to be. She seems to be taking the thoughts right out of your mind and you're sure you're blowing her mind in return.
Unfortunately, those encounters don't always happen the first time you meet a woman you are really interested in. There are usually some long pauses where neither of you seem to know exactly what to say and sometimes you may not know what it's in your own mind, let alone her stealing your thoughts. It's almost as horrible as waking up hung over with an ugly stranger in your bed.
You're tired of asking about the weather when what you really want to say ask about is her bedroom. You're tired of feeling awkward and embarrassed and want more of those deep conversations where you really click with a woman. If this is where you are right now, these tips on how to keep a conversation going will help you break the ice, get over the silent pauses, and keep things rolling along.
Silent Busters That Work to Keep the Conversation Going
It's common for men to plan and even practice what they want to say when an awkward silence hits, but usually these lines come out forced and insincere. This of course makes the interaction even more awkward!
The trick is to find quirky, fun things to say that fit with your personality so they don't come out stiff. For instance, you could say something like, "Why do awkward silences always feel so awkward?" Something like this will be unexpected and is quirky so she is more likely to respond with a genuine smile or laugh.
That line is actually a lot deeper when you really think about it, so you could actually carry on a brief conversation thinking it over together. You will actually see a bit about who she is by how she responds to such a remark. Does she share your sense of humor or does she just seem too uptight to let loose?
"It's funny; you always know when you really understand someone when the silences start to feel awkward." This is another potential line that shares something quirky and light with some deeper thought behind it.
Notice that both of these sample lines involve pointing out the elephant in the room. What makes awkward silences so awkward in most cases in everyone is desperate to make them go away without acknowledging them. Acknowledge them and you will both feel more at ease.
You can use this strategy throughout your relationships with women. Anything that feels uncomfortable or awkward is probably something you normally don't want to talk about. Bring it into the light with conversation and it won't feel as tense.
You can get some practice by asking these questions and others to friends to see how they respond.
Learn to Listen - The True Secret to Great Conversations
Most women love to talk, so you should let them pull their weight in a conversation. If you ask the right questions most women will respond by talking your ear off. If you are a relaxed, tentative listener and she feels comfortable with you, then the awkward silences will disappear as she talks through them.
You can't just sit there silent, but you can ask questions that feed off of what she is saying to keep her talking. If she is talking about her favorite foods ask why she likes those foods, and so on.
If she tries to draw you more into the conversation you have to let your guard down and give detailed answers that will satisfy her. If you want to shut a conversation down give one word answers, but if you want to prolong it you have to really get into the conversation yourself.
Learning to listen and to respond to what you hear is really going to impress her because it shows that you care and are attentive. So the next time you are talking to a women, or even another guy (hey, it's good practice), start listening and asking questions about what you hear, instead of just waiting for you turn to talk. You will be surprised with the results.
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If you want to be big on the dating scene then you are going to have to learn seduction techniques and skills that are incredibly simple, shockingly powerful, and that produce results. After the conversation starts you need to know how to keep a conversation going , here is how to do it.
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