Recovering from infidelity is a most difficult and trying time in one's life, and you may wonder if there is any hope to save your marriage. After dealing with the initial shock and horror of the news, you may need to take time to decide if the bonds between you and your spouse will ever be repaired. Problems are unavoidable in any marriage. Marriage is the joining of two people who have two different personalities. So, now what can be done about it? As a responsible partner you can try to reduce the intensity of the problem, if you work hard.
There are just no words that can describe the tragedy of discovering your spouse or partner has cheated on you. Physical and emotional pain is almost always present, and your mind can easily spiral out of control with awful thought and emotions. You wants answers, you do not get them. You want to talk but you feel shut out. This causes many to question whether divorce is the next best option.
When you argue or fight about something, every second that goes by makes it more likely that the conflict will result in some kind of resentment or long term issue. It's quite healthy to disagree about things, but it's also healthy to accept someone else's opinion, or even agree to disagree. That's not to say you should just pander to your partner's wishes in case a disagreement causes problems, but just keep in mind that if you do argue the consequences can be far reaching.
Statics have shown that 60% of husbands and 40% of wives will have an affair at some point in the marriage. Of these marriages, only about 35% of them will NOT divorce. Although these number may seem bleak, there really is hope if you truly want to work to save you marriage. Surviving marriage after infidelity is very possible if you first look at what you are willing to do, then see what your partner is willing to do. Ask yourself these questions to determine where each of you stands.
Has the cheater expressed desire to work alongside you to save this relationship? Is the affair 100% over? You will need to ensure that your partner is open to attend counseling and is truly sorry for their actions. The apology must ring true in the actions they display towards you, not just words they speak.
Can you make the promise to do the necessary work to save your relationship? Even though you did not cause this damage, after the affair you are the one who needs to be wiling to deal with your own emotions. If you are suffering from sad, lonely and negative thoughts now, you can make the decision to learn tools and tricks to change those thoughts. Even though it is difficult, if you are up for the challenge you can learn to rebuild yourself and your marriage.
Once you ask these difficult but important questions, you will gain a better understanding of how to move forward with the marriage after infidelity. This type of crisis is nearly as difficult as dealing with a death, and you no doubt are going to struggle with emotional trauma when deciding what to do.
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