I know you wouldn't believe if I told you that spending too much time with your partner would hurt the relationship. People have the conventional belief that spending more time together helps to understand each other better. However, they do not know that all of us are actually individuals who need personal space.
It is important to learn how to achieve the balance between US (needs of relationship) and ME (individual needs). This can be shown using a simple equation:
"ME + ME = US"
Too much "ME" can result in you and your partner drifting apart, while too much "US" can stifle your partner, causing resentment and undesirable conflicts.
You need to learn to balance your life among love, family, friends, self and work. So how do you nurture your individuality?
1. You can indulge in an activity that you enjoy alone. Go and sign up for some classes in which you have interest such as dance or aerobics classes. You will find it fulfilling after sometime because you are setting aside enough time for self-growth through obtaining some new skills.
2. You can also hang out more often with your friends. Update them on what has been going on in your life. Your partner will be able to join your social circle easier this way.
3. You can spend the weekends with your family. Take the initiative to visit your family if you are not living together with them and bring them out for a picnic or dinner.
How much "ME" time you need depends on what you and your partner are comfortable with. Some couples are perfectly fine with seeing each other at every waking moment.
To really understand the amount of "ME" time you need, try out the following tips.
1. Talk to your partner about how much time you prefer to spend with each other on a daily or weekly basis. Discuss with your partner and once both of you are agreeable, stick to the consensus.
2. Acknowledge and understand your partner's commitments outside your relationship. If need be, give your partner more space. Each individual needs space and time for self-growth.
3. Trust your partner and be confident with yourself. Do not think that giving your partner some alone time to spend equals to giving them time to mess around outside.
Once your partner and you have decided to give each other more private space, both of you should also give each other enough trust.
However exciting it is to spend time together, remember that there are places to be and things both of you have to do.
Your world should never revolve around one person or relationship!
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