Will your spouse's cheating destroy the relationship? At this point you are the only one who can answer that. Why is it up to you? Because your two timing mate is adamant that they want to stay married. They've done wrong and know it. They vow to do whatever it takes to rebuild the relationship.
Regardless of whether you remain with them or not is your call but even with that decision in the balance there are a few things to bear in mind.
1. Don't Freak Out
Thinking about the future can be unnerving. Especially if you have been in a marital relationship for quite a while and then decide to go it alone. Don't let fear of the unknown influence your decision. You are connected to your spouse in many ways but that does not mean complete and utter dependence. If you want to end the marriage then do it. Better to learn self-sufficiency than to be stuck in a relationship where you feel like you can never trust your spouse again.
2. Do Not Give In
In the event you do decide to hang in there then set some parameters in regards to how things are going to be from now on and stick to them. Do not let the fact that your spouse may get an attitude over these guidelines intimidate you. It is up to them to make dramatic lifestyle changes in order to prove you can trust them again. At times there effort is going to be lacking. There could also be instances when they try to manipulate you and thereby taking control or the realtionship. No matter what they try it is critical that you do not back down.
3. Be Realistic
Your recovery from unfaithfulness may take quite some time so do not let your impatience overwhelm you. Certainly you would like the depressing thoughts and images would go away forever. That goes also for the fear of wondering what your spouse is up to every time they are out of your sight. They will eventually but right now you must accept the fact that the road ahead is long and difficult.
4. Do Some Cheerleading
When you notice your significant other making a genuine and sustained effort to fix the relationship as well as earning your trust back then cheer on their efforts. Try to rekindle the romance by doing things like having date nights. Let them know how much you still love and care for them. Standing over them like some prison guard as they go through the process of rehabilitating is not going to give them a whole lot of motivation to keep at it.
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