Is really something that is not easy and it is up to you to take charge of your life and make the best out of the situation. One thing you need to understand is that people are always shy, there are just different levels of shyness and if yours is so bad that you freeze up and start speaking German when you are out on a date (and you are not German), then you need to address this right away or you are going to spend plenty of lonely nights at home. For one thing, the one big reason behind this is that people are normally insecure on the first date and this is something that has to be addressed if you feel that way. You have to stop caring, well to a large extent.
We are not saying that you throw caution to the wind and just do what you want to do, act how you want to act and just say what you want to say. You also need to practice some restraint and this is really where it is important for you to understand the whole concept of balance. You need to be more easy going when you are on a date, because you have to realise one thing. Sending in your representative means that you will have to keep the act up for the next few dates, until you guys are in a serious relationship and want to get married and stuff. For one thing, it takes plenty of stamina and hard work to keep up appearance, and to most people who have been dating for a long time, this kind of effort is really unnecessary.
What you need to do is to actually just be yourself, and this is where the shyness will simply go away. Once you are comfortable in your own space, then you will find that you are much more at ease than you would be normally. Stop thinking so much. Clutter in your mind will make you trip up even more, and start having some confidence in yourself. Practice affirmation techniques if you think that it will help you and always have an objective at the end of the date. And make sure that both are successes, no matter what happens.
For one, always look on the bright side of life. Make sure that even if you do not get any headway, then at least be pleased that you had a night out, ate some food and got to watch that movie you always wanted to. The other outcome? You have a second date. Keep thinking positive and you will find that your shyness will also just melt away. Remember, shyness is always a state of mind and the mind is something that you need to take back and place under your control. You are in charge of yourself and you need to keep reminding yourself. With your new found confidence, you would then be able to tackle the whole dating game with a whole different outlook.
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