The state of affairs seems downright grim. For weeks now the end of your marriage is looming closer and there would seem to be no way that you can persuade your spouse not to go ahead with the divorce. He or she wishes that divorce but you don't want that at all and your plight seems completely hopeless. You are baffled, abandoned and scared. The excellent news is that your plight is not unique (you know that very well) and it is indeed not hopeless. By reading this article you will discover 3 great strategies for how to stop divorce:
Agree To What Your Spouse Wishes
When one individual desires something that the other does not, there is a battle of wills. If you try to persuade your other half that that you'll be different from now on and not to continue with the divorce, you are making them believe that they have to be apart from you and they will dig their heals in further. Stop being difficult, stop whining, stop piling on the pressure and stop needing. Instead, agree with the fact that a divorce is required and that their judgement of the situation is spot on. One of the reasons that they want to pull away from you is that you are continuously disagreeing with them. Who would want to be apart form someone who thinks the way they do?
Act As If You Are OK With It All
Act happy about the staus quo. You have told your partner that they are correct, now go and enjoy your freedom and give the relationship some space. If you are separated don’t phone up all the time to try to convince your partner to stay with you or that you will always love them. This is the worst thing you can do. Keep dialogue untroubled and happy and give attention to helpful practicalities such as what time to pick up the kids. Make contact light and happy. Somber talk hurts a relationship.
Stop working At the Relationship
The answer that most marriage counsellors have for how to stop divorce, is to work at the difficulties in your marriage and to try to make them better . However it is working at a relationship that makes it not work! When you say negative things all the time and explain what ‘s not working you are working to improve your mate . You are at odds with what they think and you can almost certainly understand that this just makes everything worse. Allow and accept 100% what your other half thinks, feels or does.
If you put your hands up, surrender and concentrate on the positive aspects in your relationship, your other half will not have a leg to stand on and will come around to your way of thinking. In this way you can save your marriage!
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