My wife and I have been married for almost 3 years now. Boy the time goes by fast. We were married September 17th, 2007 in Maui, Hawaii. It was a great time for us all. Maui was amazing, our family was amazing and we were very happy.
My wife and I have always had issues getting a long at one point or another. Our relationship started while I was still technically with my girlfriend at the time. This was a mistake to begin with, but I had a son with my girlfriend at that time and I was stuck in a routine and didn't want to move out and change my life. I think this made my wife never truly trust me, since she probably thought, "he could eventually do the same thing to me". Naturally she would think that I might go find someone else and see them while I am living with her. I would never do this, as that was a unique situation and I was young and dumb. I handled things very inappropriately.
I eventually moved out and moved in with my wife. We got a long okay, but I am not very good around the house with chores and such, so we often had arguments. I came from an upbringing where my parents did almost all of the house work, so I didn't really know how to do the laundry, fold clothes, do the dishes and fix things around the house. I am very un-handy. This was a problem, but my wife dealt with it. Slowly and surely starting to resent me every time I failed to do my husbandly duties.
After we had been together for 2-3 years, I proposed to her and she said yes. We were both very happy, but still had frequent arguments. She always said that I was too negative, didn't help her enough around the house and I think I probably didn't treat her as well as I could have. I got wrapped up in my work, making good money, but spending our precious alone time doing it. This also slowly added to her resentment of me. The resentment is the main problem at hand. Eventually you have enough resentment that you just grow apart from the other personal and generally do not like them.
We started growing apart and neither of us understood why. We have recently began seeing a relationship therapist. I did not have high hopes going into see her at first, but she has made a big difference for us. She has helped us understand why we argue, more about what type of personality we each have and how to deal with the differences between us and lots more.
My biggest problem was that my wife stopped wanting to be intimate with me after the baby was born. I couldn't understand why but we found out that it mostly comes down to me spending far too much time working and on the computer. This made her feel like I cared more about work and the computer then her and my son. This makes perfect sense and I have recently changed my schedule and my actions so that I do not do that anymore.
Nothing has changed yet, but it will eventually if I stay on course. If you have similar issues, I highly recommend seeing a good therapist and the most important thing is to stay patient and work hard and you will get your relationship back to what it once was.
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Robert has operated a marketing company for the last 2.5 years and has done very well. He writes many articles on a daily basis about things he is passionate about. He specializes in internet marketing but you can check out his recent site where he writes about the benefits of stopping smoking .
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