After a separation in marriage, getting back with your wife is probably the first thing a husband thinks of if he s been dumped by his wife. You might be feeling desperate, especially if you have kids. Your routine has been completely upended and worst of all you may have not even seen this coming. But whatever you do, don t start calling and texting or emailing your wife. Let her be for now.
Your natural reaction will be to do anything to get back with your wife. Although it might not make any sense right now, the best thing to do is nothing. You need to give your wife some space. If you are harassing her, the only thing you will accomplish is to piss her off and drive her even further away.
If you have kids, a few things could be happening and none of them are good. You have been banished from your home and you aren t around your kids anymore. Or, your wife has split the scene and you are left taking care of the kids. Either way, it sucks. You lose no matter what, your routine is completely trashed and if you are forced to care for your children on your own, you have to grapple with that, make money and figure out your marriage all at the same time.
Whatever you do, use this cooling off period productively. Think about what went wrong. Don t mistake symptoms for the problem. If she cheated on you, that is not the problem, that is a symptom. You have to dig deeper and understand why she cheated on you.
The next thing you need to do at this point is work on being a better you. What can you do that will make you a better person? These changes need to be honest, the changes can t be just a trick to get back with your wife.
I know it sounds so easy to say make yourself better, when in reality all you want to do is lay on the couch, watch TV and eat delivery pizza. But if your wife, your marriage, your family are something you don t want to lose it s time to buck up. Most men say they would do anything for their family, especially for their kids. If you feel that keeping the family together is the most important thing, you are just going to have to work through the pain of this separation and do what is needed to get your wife back.
By making positive changes in your life you will begin to feel better about yourself, you will begin to feel that you are taking care of the situation and doing something positive for your family. Just knowing that you are moving forward and being a man in the way you are handling this situation should bolster your confidence.
As your confidence returns and you show what you are made of, you will become more attractive and that attraction can do wonders in helping to bring your wife back to you.